So it’s been a tough few weeks since I last posted on here.We have taken the final decision to homeschool.This is a journey I have idea how it’s going to go but for the peace and sanity of our little family we feel it the best decision.
We have found a few resources to help us out online with learning and I am hoping the education dept will help us out with some of it but will keep you all posted
So after what has been a good start to the week A has been excluded for a day and a half.The sad thing is it turns out that all of this bad behaviour has been a desperate attempt to keep a friend.Trying to teach A she has her own mind and it’s not a bad thing to look after yourself first.That this friend is not her responsibility.The friend blackmails A with if she doesn’t do it then the friend won’t come to school then A has no one to hang around with.
I wish I knew how to get into A’s head so she could see actually what a genuinely loving caring funny person she is and when she shows that side people like her more.A seems to have carried around a huge ball of anger for years even as a younger child.My heart breaks trying to make the decision of taking her out of school but then will she do the lessons if I home school?
What about the social side of things? A doesn’t mix with anyone other than adults at home oh and her Animals. Annie loves spending time with her older sister as well.
As a family unit we are all very close her uncles grandparents cousins we all spend time together and A loves that time together with her family.we are all guilty of treating her as older than she actually is but A is very mature in some ways
With a 10 year age gap between my two girls I can definitely say raising a child has got harder in those years.The concerns are bigger it’s a totally different world 🌎
So I was told I had to attend a meeting with One of A’s deputy head teachers this morning fearing the worst I went half hearted.
I was told the faculty had held a meeting about ‘A this morning and have come up with the idea of being tougher on her 🤣🤣🤣 now to me who suggested this few weeks ago but was told they couldn’t be tougher on the children on their school without parents permission……Myself I really can not believe that society has got to the stage where even teachers must put up with our brats!! Give these kids some fear for goodness sake they may not be so keen on stabbing each other in the streets then. As you can imagine I approved straight away what’s the point in my being strict and punishing at home then at school the teachers aren’t allowed to be angry with how kids wind them up and humiliate them,my child included.
So this meeting lasted all of 5mins agreeing the school needs to be as hard as I am at home.
The day before this meeting I had received a text to say A had left the school premises at 8.35 am School hadn’t even started. A was due to do internal reflection for two days for bad behaviour so thought it was strange as she prefers time in there alone than in the classroom.So my husband went off in the car to try and find her I started walking the school route starting to worry as A doesn’t like to be out in the street alone she doesn’t even go hang out with friends. I kept in constant contact with the school in hope they would find her 40 mins later I got a call saying they had found A,Huge relief!!…turns out one teacher had told her she was to early for internal reflection it didn’t start till 9 so wait outside the school gate till then.So that’s where she went all that panic for nothing 😱
Some days I wonder if some of these teachers actually know their arse from their elbows 🤣
It’s 9.20 am and the almighty A already has two detentions I dread that bing from my phone 🤣
What do I do with her last night I removed her phone and Apple Watch hoping that would help but still the detentions flow in and she is booked up all the way through till November now ….. so I move her bed into school as she obviously likes it so much 😱
A has always been hard work right from toddler and I have come to the realisation that I spent a lot of time passing ting her bad behaviour in public I just gave into what ever she wanted to get her to behave so I didn’t feel embarrassed.For some reason in my head if she had a tantrum in public I was a bad mother.As I said previously I do have an older daughter G who I consider to have had a normal child hood we had our ups and downs in her teen years but isn’t that normal?
so it’s not like I was a first time parent I was just 10 yrs older and obviously not wiser lol We have given everything the girls wanted or needed so much so you could say they are spoilt but with the big age gap it was easy to do,they are my life.
I’m just rambling today Getting out what keeps going around in my head….let’s see how many more detentions the day brings 😖
So Monday and Annie has received two detentions already one for chewing gum the other for being late and rude.I am convinced A thinks she has the god given right to not follow any rules in life.What happens when she has to start working 🤬🤬
Mother Moron